Learn 5 Keys For Successfully Resolving Conflicts.

Learn 5 Keys For Successfully Resolving Conflicts.
By: Bill and Teddy Rogers

All
of us have had or, if we live long enough, will have conflicts in our
personal relationships. How we handle and resolve
these
conflicts is very important.
James
1:19
says
My dear
brothers and sisters, take note of this: Everyone should be quick to
listen, slow to speak and slow to become angry.”
Here
are 5 keys needed to successfully resolve
most
of your conflicts.
KEY
# 1: BE QUICK TO LISTEN
When
we listen, we encourage the other person to talk.
Listening
also helps us to understand the other person and where they are
coming from.
Many of us do not really
listen like we should because we are defensive, we assume we already
know what they are going to say next, or we’re thinking about what
we’re going to say back to them.
During A Conflict, Here Is
What You Should Do:
  • Listen not merely with your
    ears, but observe and listen with your eyes;
  • Focus on what the other
    person is saying, not what you are thinking;
  • Consider the meaning behind
    the words without jumping to conclusions.

Note: If you are not
sure what you think they said, replay their statement back to them.
KEY
# 2: BE SLOW TO SPEAK
God gave us two ears and one
mouth. This may mean that we are to listen more and speak a whole lot
less.
Here Are 4 Scriptures That
Tell Us To Limit What We Say During A Conflict.
Proverbs
10:19
says
In
the multitude of words sin is not lacking, but he who restrains his
lips
is
wise.”
Proverbs
17:27
says
He
who has knowledge spares his words, and a man of understanding is of
a calm spirit.”
Proverbs
21:23
says
Whoever
guards his mouth and tongue keeps his soul from troubles.”
Ecclesiastes
5:3
says
For
a dream comes through much activity, and a fool’s voice is known by
his many words
.”
KEY
# 3: BE SLOW TO BECOME ANGRY
Ecclesiastes
7:9
says
Do not
hasten in your spirit to be angry, for anger rests in the bosom of
fools.”
Proverbs
16:32
says
He
who is slow to anger is better than the mighty, and he who rules his
spirit than he who takes a city.”
Ephesians
4:26
says
Be angry,
and do not sin: do not let the sun go down on your wrath.”
Proverbs
29:22
says
An angry
man stirs up strife, and a furious man abounds in transgression.”
Remember, words spoken in
anger are very difficult if not impossible to retract. Keep your
words soft and sweet, you may have to eat them!
KEY
# 4: BE LOVING AND KIND
1
Corinthians 13:4-7
says
Love
suffers long
and
is kind; love
does not envy; love does not parade itself, is not puffed up;

does not behave rudely,
does not seek its own, is not provoked, thinks no evil; does not
rejoice in iniquity, but rejoices in the truth; bears all things,
believes all things, hopes all things, endures all things.”
You will never resolve any
conflict by playing destructive games. Please don’t ever do the
following:
  • Blame the other person;
  • Think you know everything
    about the other person;
  • Insist that every detail be
    correct;
  • Rule by force – verbal or
    physical;
  • Compare
    the other person to
    someone
    else;
  • Act superior or “holier
    than thou”;
  • Bring up past conflicts that
    have nothing do do with the current conflict.
Key
# 5: ATTEMPT TO SET THE

 STAGE BEFORE YOUR CONFLICT

  • Never have your conflict
    before eating a meal, going to church or a social event;
  • Never have your conflict when
    you or the other person are angry;
  • Have it in the right place
    when only the participants are involved ( never in front of children
    );
  • Stay in control of your tone
    of voice.
Obviously, there are
exceptions to the above, but if you use these 5 Keys and use them
wisely, you should be able to successfully resolve most of your
conflicts.
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